6 | Honor As A Daily Practice

Welcome back. Honoring self is a daily practice.

If we were to do all this inner work of clarifying WHO we are, but then never return to it, we actually wouldn’t be honoring self.

Because, once again, honoring self is a daily practice.

Let’s take a step out a bit.

What we’ve covered so far is the beginning to building a culture of honor - starts with self.

The only way we can sustainably honor others for the long haul is if we have a culture of honor towards ourself first. And that includes both knowing who we are, and then living who we are out in action.

The thing with being human is our forgetfulness. Sometimes we forget who we are.

We get overwhelmed by an external circumstance in life and we act OUT of character.

We get stressed out by an offense someone else just caused, and instead of focusing on who we are and how WE want to respond, we act out of character, play the victim, and react without really thinking intentionally.

We choose the easy route of acting out of character, because doing the thing that’s aligned WITH our character is harder.

And all of these things are fine to do - it just doesn’t grow us into someone who has honor for ourselves, and as a result, we can’t honor others.

For example:

Have you ever had a coach or boss that was consistently rude, demeaning and disrespectful? A coach or boss who made it clear that to feel valued as a person you needed to perform as one of the best performers on the team. In essence, to feel valued as a person you needed to perform, you needed to make sure you hit all expectations every single day. You needed to be perfect. And even then, you’d still NOT be enough for them.

Here’s a secret:

The way that coach or boss treated you was just a glimpse of their own self talk and how they treated themselves.

The way we treat our own character, is how we treat others.

The level of honor and respect we have for ourselves, is the level of honor and respect we will be able to extend to others.

Do you see how important this inner work is?

If we can’t build self respect for our own self, from the inside, we will not be able to extend it outward to others.

Culture starts from the inside … and then moves out.

Hopefully, at this point you’ve found some words to lay the foundation of WHO you are. That’s what we covered yesterday. Finding words that describe your character. Now, your one next step is to build a daily practice of solidifying that foundation by spending time in thought about who you are.

And we’re talking a few minutes here per day.

The goal is also in the way you do it. The goal is to relate with yourself in an honoring way.

To read or say out loud, “This is who I am, what I’m about.” And to gain a sense of something sacred. Important. Meaningful. To build a true inner confidence and even feel a sense of enjoyment in who you are.

We’re not build ego here. We’re building identity.

If you’re still having a hard time with this, reach out, I can help you here!

So 3 minutes a day.

Reminding yourself “this is who i am, this is what I’m about, this is how I do things.”

And as a result, you are slowly becoming a person who genuinely has a sense of honor towards themself.

Here’s an invitation for you:

Send me what you’ve mapped out so far. You can click the connect button and send me a message with the words you’ve found that describe who you are.

To wrap up today, let me tell you this. Very few people do this in the world. But the ones who do - they’re some of the most influential people and leaders in the world. Because they move differently. They live differently. They think differently. They are always on the path of belief, momentum, and they impact every room they walk into and every person they interact with. They handle obstacles and set backs as opportunities to learn - not hits at their identity or mission. They handle success and fame with true humility and never let it get to their head.

So imagine the kind of teams these people build.

and that’s they type of leader YOU are becoming.

On that note, that’s all for today. Step back into your day and I’ll see you soon.